You don’t have to be your job, if you don’t want to be…
What do we do?
Members of countless societies today use someone’s occupation as the quickest way to draw some of their judgments of a person. Using someone’s employment we can make generalizations.
- What kind of personality do they have?
- Social status. How respected are they among their peers and the public?
- Possibly learn where they hold their values.
- Roughly how much money they make?
- What might seem like neutral chit-chat is also how we begin to get to know if we get along with someone.
This is only the cover
We can make generalizations about someone’s life based on what they do for work. But they are just that, generalizations, or assumptions. If someone does something for a living, it doesn’t always mean they do that with their life. Employment is normally what we do to be able to afford the things we want to do outside of work… it is this time that shows more of who we are as individuals.
Unless you have your dream job where you are paid to do what you love, our job is mostly only the cover of our book per se. What is behind that cover shows more of who we are and not simply what we do.
You can Define yourself
Everyone has hobbies, things they like to do and see. Most people have jobs or careers whether we enjoy them or not.
Which one do you want to define you? It is a personal choice. This can be an active choice, or sometimes a subconscious one. Does your career define you? Are you glad that it does?
It isn’t a bad thing either way and it is a choice for you to make. Some people are content being defined by their work, some people would rather be defined by their personal interests.
What makes you Happy?
Are you unsure what defines you? Maybe you find yourself often defined by your career but would rather not be? You can think about what makes you happy. If your job is just to pay the bills, think about what makes you happy and what you would like to share, to find other like-minded people.
It is best to define yourself by what makes you happy. You can be proud of these things, and doing so will help you remain positive.
Not the End of the World
If you still find yourself trapped in being defined by your career to a certain degree, it is not the end of the world. As you meet people the more you communicate with them they will get to know who you are behind the cover. What you do for work, or what you do for hobbies can be as much a part of that as you want it to be.
Change your definition
Think about your career. If you don’t want to be defined by your career, ask yourself why? Why do I do this job that I don’t want to be identified by?
Do some brainstorming about whether there is any potential to sustain yourself financially doing what makes you happy. Remember you don’t have to be a pro at it either, skill and proficiency will be built with experience.
If there is a disconnection between your job and what makes you happy, it is within your power to make change.
The process does not have to be overnight. It could be even a 5-10 year plan of transitioning yourself to doing something that makes you happy and either tapping into an existing market, or creating a new market yourself.
If it takes you 5 years to put yourself in a position of doing what you love to do for a living, it’ll be worth it.
Finally, ask yourself if you define yourself by your career. If you do, does this make you happy?
If it does, great! People who are passionate about what they do often excel faster in that field than those who are not. If it doesn’t make you happy, try and find out why. Explore some ways that you can make a change in order to define yourself more in a way that you would like.